The generalised term of the ‘Indian wedding’ is mainly associated with the Hindu marriage ceremony – an elaborate celebration lasting for several days. A non RSVP large scale family gathering.
An event for ladies to show off their carefully crafted attire. A networking event like no other, where old aunties will scout for their future sons and daughters-in-law.
An exuberant fun and exciting extravaganza.
Indian weddings used to be quite a traditional affair. The bride and groom would be confirmed for each other by their parents at the tender age of 5 or 6 years.
Then it slowly evolved into arranged marriages. Not these days. The western culture infiltration is allowing for self selection of partners. Which is great.
Could you imagine the bridezilla that cute 6 year old could become in her twenties.
Lets Set A Date
The wedding date is a very special date selected from astrology and superstition. An honorary priest would select this date. World Cup or Super Bowl, this date cannot be altered.
It’s A Very Religous Affair
Lots of prayers and rituals. The rituals are set in concrete. Well almost. Not many people know exactly why they are done. But then not many people dare ask either. Not just two individuals but two families come together as one.
Where’s The Party?
There is no consumption of alcohol or meat a week before and right upto the wedding. After the wedding, usually the next day, its all systems go. Drink, normal food, music and dancing into the wee hours.
Plump aunties and grandmothers have no inhibitions getting on the dance floor. Move over Madonna. Multiple belly folds – no one cares.
Am I Invited?
Indian weddings are like big family meets. Travel costs aside, it’s obligatory for close relatives from far and wide to attend. An average wedding can have anywhere from 500 to 1000 guests or as many as affordable.
Guests just won’t RSVP. It’s not cool. We’ll just turn up and we’ll invite Aunty Saroj and family who don’t know the couple but are just passing by.
Needless to say, the host family is kept guessing as to the exact numbers to cater for on the wedding day. And hence the supply of food is plentiful. Running out of food at a wedding, would be considered very shameful.
Does My Butt Look Big In this Sari?
There is no limit to the expenditure on wardrobe – the traditional female attire being the Sari. The ladies in particular all think that they themselves are the bride. Razzle dazzle and bling.
Matching shoes, jewellery. And yes, an Indian lady won’t be caught dead wearing the same outfit at two different weddings. Even if they were in different countries in different continents!
There Goes Dad’s Retirement Plan
An average Indian wedding could easily cost $60-100K. I’d hate to guess the cost of lavish Indian weddings. Is there really a need to spend so much? Centuries old tradition dictates most Indian celebrations are full of pomp and ceremony. The biggest day of a woman’s life burns the biggest hole in Dad’s pocket.
Let’s Farewell The Baraat (bridal car)
- Indian wedding ceremonies are performed over several days
- It’s an extravagant pompous affair based on tradition and religious rituals
- It’s a marriage of two families rather than two individuals
A Word Of Warning
If you ever get invited to an Indian wedding. And for the full three or four days. Be sure to attend. You will be thrilled.
But if like me, you don’t want to sit through hours of rituals. Just attend on the wedding day. And don’t bother to RSVP, there will always be plenty of food!